"CAROLINE LEACH"
We celebrated Caroline’s 79th birthday over the weekend – actually, we started on Thursday, July 2, when granddaughter Emma took us out for lunch at Manuel’s Tavern (Emma had never been there). We were touched by Emma’s continuing thoughtfulness and now her young adult agency. We continued the birthday celebration with Inez’s annual party, with great tributes from many people. We’ll continue it next week with several meals with friends.
Caroline had always been a strong girL and is now a strong woman, having learned those traits from her family and from her long association with the Girl Scouts. When I met her in Nashville in the early summer of 1973 at Linda and Robin Williams’ wedding, she had already overcome many barriers from individuals and institutions which were always telling her “NO!” I was intrigued by her story, by her fierce determination, and by her “curvy” looks, as a Knoxville newspaper once described her. I was so smitten that I moved to Atlanta to complete seminary there at Columbia, and we started dating late that summer.
One of my early concerns was that at the beginning of our courtship, Caroline indicated that she was not sure that she wanted to get serious about our relationship because she was tired of men disappointing her and trying to control her. I replied that I would make many mistakes if we continued in our relationship, but that I would definitely not try to control her, and I would try not to disappoint her. She agreed to continue dating, and we got engaged later that year and got married in May of 1974. So, we’ve been working on it for 53 years!
We are nearing completion of our book on our pioneering career as a clergy couple (the first in the Presbyterian Church in the United States), and in writing that, we have revisited our journeys, and especially Caroline’s, as she had to fight to make her voice heard and her call as a minister accepted. Our first church together was St. Columba Presbyterian in Norfolk, Virginia. It was in a 1500 unit apartment complex of Navy families and other families with little or no income. Norfolk Presbytery was funding the tiny church (26 members) and the budding community ministry there. We arrived in May 1975, and we worked hard to grow the church and to develop the community ministry there.
One of our strategies to grow the church and to develop the community ministry was to use the media (print, radio and TV in those days,) and in the fall of 1975, an interview appeared in the Norfolk newspaper (The Virginian-Pilot). It was entitled “The Rev. Ms. Leach Ministers to Change.” The reporter, Laura White, had never met a woman minister before, and she was astonished by Caroline’s journey and the depth of her insights. Here are excerpts from that newspaper article:
“The first week Caroline Leach was at seminary, a student came up to her with a Bible and told her St. Paul said she shouldn’t be there. In that first week she changed her mind from wanting to be a church’s director of Christian education to wanting to be a minister. She had never seen a woman minister – and it was not easy becoming one. The Rev. Ms. Leach was ordained a Presbyterian minister in 1973. In May she and her husband Gibson (Nibs) Stroupe, also a Presbyterian minister, came to the small St. Columba Church with its 26 members. Both are 28, and they are trying to minister to the residents of the 1,500 unit, low-income Robin Hood Apartments a few hundred feet from the church.Ms. Leach noted: “One of the first things I noticed in seminary was during lectures the professor would say ‘the minister he’ or ‘all mankind,’ or ‘the theology of man.’ I would tell them about it, and they’d either laugh it off or just have bitter anger.” When she graduated from seminary in 1972, her diploma noted that the seminary was pleased ‘to confer upon him the degree of master of divinity.”
So, I give thanks for Caroline, who has changed and deepened me in so many countless ways. She is now also mother and grandmother in our family and to so many others who are not our blood relatives. She is a great gift to us all, to the church, and to the larger world. So, in this week, lift a glass (or a piece of cake) in her honor.